I’m eager to support you.
It’s really as simple as that.
Supporting others in the grueling and energizing of marathon of gaining clarity — specifically regarding being the kind of mother they want to be and how their own maternal relationship is affecting that — is the work I live to do, and I’ll be honored to do it with you.
A few final things to know before you decide if I’m the right fit for you:
I do this work for free. Not because I’m deep in self-defeat, or because I don’t believe it’s worth it — my reasoning is exactly the opposite. I do this work for free because I’m more interested in kids not being burdened with our own inherited bullshit than I am in making a buck. Because I believe everyone needs this information, whether they can afford to buy it or not. Because I believe that changing the way we mother our children is the single most important change we need to make to make social justice a reality.
I’m going to challenge you. I’m going to be direct. I have a deeply compassionate and empathetic heart AND I have high expectations for myself and others. This work is about feeling, ownership, and action. All parts are required for effective change to happen, and if one element is left out, the whole thing starts to fall apart. Decide now if you’re ready to do the work you say you want to do, and then decide if you’re willing to be supported in actually doing it. Note: you must read my personal code before booking a call with me.
Here are some examples of reasons you might want to book a call with me:
You yell at your kid all the time and they’re starting to become defiant. You’re at a loss about what you might do differently, because you believe you need your kid to know who’s in charge.
Your child asks constantly if you’re happy. They change their behavior based on your answer.
You want to co-sleep with your baby, and your parents or in-laws are ridiculing you and telling you you’re crazy. You believe this choice is the right one for your family because science and intuition tell you it can help create secure attachment. You’re considering trying the Ferber method, but the thought of letting your baby cry-it-out makes you weep almost instantly. You want to talk this through.
You think you might owe your child and apology and you want to get clear about what’s happening internally for you so you can apologize the right way.
what’s the structure of the call/what will we do?
On the form you fill out once booking your call, you’ll see a spot where you can tell me what’s going on — what’s causing you to reach out for support, and why this time feels like the right time. Once I know those two things plus the additional information you give me, I’ll be able to get to know you a bit before we talk.
Once on our call, we will talk. You’ll be honest with me, and I with you, and we’ll likely quickly enter into a call-and-response sort of verbal dance where ideas and realizations start bouncing back and forth. My hope is that you’ll leave our call with at least one solid a-ha moment partnered with new-found clarity. Depending on your situation and where you’re at in your internal development, there’s a good chance you’ll also walk away with an idea about how to do something differently.
Like the hour we spend together and want to keep consulting with me? Just sign yourself up for another hour that works for you.
This quick and focused work really is about talking through things in order to gain clarity about something specific, and looking for actionable ways to implement that clarity.
If you have other questions you’d like answered, please don’t hesitate to shoot me a note.